You may think this post will be about judging others or how I was missed judged or something like that.

But, No!

It is about being a Judge in a home school debate class:

This class is more like a political science class then anything else. The class consists of home schooled high school and a few middle school students. This program is a nationally recognized program that is run by the parents of the students.

The kids that debate take old issues that have been argued in Congress or the Senate and have been passed or maybe not passed and rework them. The students write up thier own ideas of how to make things work better for the policies and then they argue them.

The last couple of years the class has debated issues such as:

Medical Malpractice, NATO, and Emigration Reform….This year the students are debating whether or not Sanctions should be placed on India. Every team has a different approach………Human rights for the Dalits , a work study program in the US, Free trade in India and on and on.

You get the idea….right?

As a parent, I pretend to happily go to class with my son and listen to brilliant kids argue their brilliant cases. I am to pick a winner of the debate. I should know why I picked the team I picked and why the other team didn’t win………I should know what each team member should work on to make them a better team. I need to know what they did well and most of all I am to UNDERSTAND the whole thing.

I am to tell the students, in person, why I think what I think. I should stop the debater when he or she makes mistakes………I am to rate them as first, second, third and fourth speakers….decide how they did on their persuasiveness, organization, delivery, how the evidence worked for me, how well they cross-examined the opponents and refutation………… and ,to me, worst of all, I am write all this out on an official NCFCA form.

Every time I do this I feel like I am being weighed………… in public……….ugggg!!

The students debate on stock issues and reforms and transparencies and harms and definitions and Policies and Advantages, and disadvantages and core issues, and inherency, and, and, and, and………………..when I listen to all this I think my head is going to explode!!!!!

I use to think I knew a little bit about something and then ‘we’ joined this club and I became a parent judge……….I listen to these brilliant kids that know these brilliant words that I have to sometimes (try) to write down so I can look them up later or worse ask one of my kids what it means………..because I forget!!! or I just don’t know the word!

I am a terrible speller. I am not a good writer. I get confused easily……. I forget things all the time.


I really don’t know what the heck these kids are talking about! I sit and listen and pretend……….and I think…………..Huh??………..What???….. The who?? Now is India anywhere near Charleston SC? Or is it in NC near Cherokee Valley?



I know I should be fair. I know I should be informed. I know I should kind of know what I am doing. After all, these kids are our future………I have to keep in mind they are debating to win scholarships, get to college and maybe even learn how to lead this Great Country of ours……………not to make me feel stupid.

Now, if I am asked whether this top looks good with these pants…….I am your woman…….or if Susie’s eyes are to close together. I can give you a big………. YES!! You know make up could do wonders for her….


Why the heck is she wearing those shoes with that dress??

But, THIS!!

It is just too darn hard! These kids are just too darn smart! The worst of it all we cannot judge our own kids……….I would be good here because I would know if my kid cleaned his room or not that day. I would know if he worked really hard in school that week. I would know if he was very nice to me and very helpful to his brother and sisters……. then……….

He wins!

If he wasn’t and made me crazy that week………

It is a BIG lose!!

At one time, I use to think I knew a little bit about politics and policies and maybe a big word here and there ……but now…….

I know……….. I know nothing!!

Gee, being a Parent Judge in a home school debate class is really hard.

SNOW! Southern Style!

Yay! SNOW!
Wonderful Snow!

Stephen is caught in the first Snow ball fight of the season.

We where having a great time……..
The power went out!
We didn’t have electricity all through the night.
It got cold!
Really cold!
Not cool……well, too COLD!!
TREES came crashing down and the wind made terrible howling sounds.
I was a very worried about what the morning would bring.

It brought…….


With the power back on and with a good cup of coffee……
the snow was a welcoming sight.

A beautiful! SIGHT!

We had so much snow Alex and Brian had to crawl to make it home!!


Alex made it,

with a little help from his friend.

On our end

Kathryn knows people too!

And so does Mary Elizabeth.

Natasha was not amuzed.
She had enough!
After all,
she is a Southern Bell.
Today the snow is, for the most part, gone.
The roads are clear and we are back to school.
it sure was nice to have a day of fun, snow and electricity!

Not Me! Monday!

Welcome to Not Me! Monday!

This blog carnival was created by MckMama. With her encouragement and her blog button, I have decided to play.

It should be fun!

The idea is to post the things you know you should have done but didn’t……or the other way around!

When you’re done here, head over to her blog to read what she and everyone else have not been doing this week.

Here goes! It’s time to ‘fess up!’

Not Me! Monday!

This morning, I did not get up early and enjoy the peace and quite. I would have woken everyone up nice and early to get started with their day. It snowed last night and after all I knew the kids would be excited and I would want them to get out into the fun before it melted away. We live in South Carolina and the snow just stays and stays!

When Mark told me he was going to work today, I didn’t think secretly……. “I will get on the computer and blog when he leaves.” I would not have done that, because I never waist time. I just have too much to do!

When I took my two year old daughter out into the snow, I did not get too cold really fast and tell her I had Hot Chocolate in the house. Then I did not tell her we could make a cake and that Barnie was on………after all I know the snow is rare around here.


I am much nicer then that.

I did not waste too much time under a blanket reading the book my mother gave me today. I cleaned up my house right away and it really looks great. I am not sitting in a mess thinking……….How does it get so bad so quickly? My wonderful husband and mostly my kids and are very, very neat and tidy and always puts things back where they go. I will never find them hiding from a mess……

My house is ALWAYS perfect! Because I am a REALLY GREAT house keeper!

Now it is your turn! Tell me what you have not been doing today.

Looking forward to it!

Something Missing

The lady in the picture at the top of my blog is my mom. We are in Hilton Head S.C. at the beach. I forget why my sister and I got to go to the beach with our parents and take our kids, but we did. Our parents are just like that. They are great……..They invite us and we go.

Every time I look at this picture, I think of the day we were at the beach having so much fun. Our kids were playing in the water and my mom was right in there with them. Mary Elizabeth couldn’t wait to get down and splash and swim. She loved it all.

But, there was something missing that day……….the other member of our party ……..My Father.

He was sick that day. I think, if I remember right, we went to the beach shortly after a chemo treatment. I am sure he was sick from the chemo. He also fell and broke his hand while riding bikes with my boys the day before. Even though he had all this going on……. he never complained. We all knew he really didn’t feel to well that morning. We knew he really wanted to have some peace a quite for a while………and maybe he just wanted to rest……..he never said that, but we knew his hand was bothering him, chemo makes you sick and the sun was really hot.

…….He must have been very uncomfortable. But……..still………. he never complained.

You want to know someone really amazing? You should meet my dad. He never complains and always sees the fun in things. He always looks towards the future.


He always go back to the cancer center for his treatments. He is thankful to be able to do it…………….. I find it ALL just very amazing.

I remember that day in the fun and sun so well…….while we took pictures and played and had such a very good time it just didn’t feel right. I couldn’t help but miss him. Every time I look at that picture I think what fun we had and how great it was being there with them…..but………I missed my dad playing in the water with us that day.

I guess somethings you never out grow.