We loved every minute of it!
We loved every minute of it!
Oh! My Gosh! It is June 11th already and I haven’t even finished telling you all about April.
With each passing month I wonder…Should I write about the things that happened months ago? Should I change the name of this blog to “Just Trying to Keep Up” or should I just keep looking forward and only post about what happened today?
Sometimes I just can’t help but to look back. Even though, where we are going is good….Where we have been has been great.
I want to share all those things with you and I really want to remember what happened in April. It was a nice month and then of course it went into May and then June with more celebrations and birthdays to come and time just goes by.
Some how my camera disappeared.
Makes me sad too.
That same weekend, my boys finished another successful year of debate…….and again no pictures.
Blogging is something I do for fun; to look back and see what has really happened through the year….To see if my memories match what truly was, to see who was loved, to see how the children have grown and all the other “stuff” in between.
Now with our seasons changing I wonder, Did I blow the post I should have done about the snow and the fort Stephen built.
They got up very early a cold February morning excited about “doing good” for their fellow man.
It really was a warming site.
The girls were a little nervous a first……
But, they jumped right in and did everything they were asked to do with warm and loving hearts.
Did you know, at the Soup Kitchen they not only give one well prepared feast, they offer; a bag that contains some food for the rest of the day, clothing, and just a few personal items, if they can.
This was my job…..and mostly, the people ,down on their luck at soup kitchen, understood; Most would just take one, and say “thank you” with a smile and then walked away.
After it was all said and done.….The six girls that came with me, giggled all the way home in the back of my van sharing doughnuts, talking about school issues, books they have read, foods they like and how they should wear their hair.
So now here we are……The middle of March.
But somehow the “Time goes on” as I can hear my father say….and we celebrate each and every birthday and all the “mile stones” of our lives.
AND the BIG surprise this year…
Mom and Margaret
maybe you should not read this one
So this is it….The big birthday week. And we are all trying really hard thinking of ways we can make IT stay away…..but we know we can’t.
Margaret’s birthday is Tuesday and then……my father’s birthday will be Wednesday……Ash Wednesday…… and we have to do it without him.
I keep telling myself we should celebrate. It was so wonderful having him here with us. He truly left the world a better place. Life and Love should always be celebrated.
And then I cry.
And then I think we should celebrate Margaret’s birthday even though she doesn’t want to. I can hear our father saying……”You have to celebrate. It is better then the alternative.” And I laugh and I wonder…Does he still think that……I can also hear him say; “Of course you will celebrate. I am so glad she is there with you.”….and then I think….. I am glad she is here too and then I cry.
We all cry…….separately.
It has been a very hard month for all of us.
I haven’t posted much at all this month just because I really don’t know what to do. I have been dreading this whole week. I have been holding my breath all month not wanting to think about it at all.
So NOW….IT is coming and I sit here………. thinking.
Should I post his picture on Black and White Wednesday? After all it is his birthday and I really like playing that game….. Do I post a picture of him and Margaret? After all we always celebrate their birthdays together……Or do I do nothing?
I just don’t know what to do,
But I do know I miss him.
I miss him being excited about life……..and because today is Valentines Day and he always made it special for our mother. I miss him being excited because James in now at a University and Matthew made the Dean’s list at the community college and he is still in high school. I miss hearing his “WOW”.
I miss him being excited because Stephen is such a do-er and being so very pleased because Steve “did it” just the way he would of. I miss hearing him call all the girls “Dear” and everyone of those girls…..young or old….whether they knew him or not..… thought they WERE his one and only very special DEAR…….. I just miss so much about him.
AND It just doesn’t feel right going into the week not acknowledging the fact February 16 is Margaret’s birthday and February 17 is his.
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It was Mark’s job to cut the turkey.
We had a wonderful dinner and great conversation.
They showered us with more gifts…and the day spending time with family was perfect.
Matthew enjoyed it too.
And Liz…She wants to know where Santa Clause is and why he has only come
THREE times this year….
The first order of the morning was to take a picture of Anthony’s $85.00 shoes before he left…He told me it was important because “They are the most expensive shoes I have ever had.”
…Well then, we must do what we must do…
Then it was time to drag a very sleepy Mary Elizabeth out of bed…and drag we did.
She didn’t quite understand what was waiting for her in the next room.
She is still young.
She doesn’t quite get we celebrate and celebrate and celebrate.
Santa brought bee suites and a Honey Bee keeping starter kit to both Matthew and Stephen.
The note from Santa said to order the Bee’s in mid January…
This is what I don’t understand…Do the bee’s come in a box or to they fly here on their own once they are paid for? Does someone give them a map and tell them to just go???
It will be interesting to find out.
My mom was happy for her beautiful new scarf….
And everyone had a great morning.
After the morning excitement the boys got right to work putting the bee hives together.
~ Never forgetting the Reason for the Season ~
We started the night off with a family Mass.
We humbly honored the Holy Family and are thrilled to have Aunt Carolyn’s manger safely tucked away in the cabinet that Love built…Given to Karen by her cousins Aunt Carolyn’s daughters Anne and Kathy
The table was grand
The children were ready
Well….most of the children were ready…
and the giving began
Anthony was here…and again having the “Best Time Ever”
Many wonderful gifts were given and received
There was laughter, there was happiness, there was joy…
There was giving, there was receiving, there was remembering, there was love…
Some gifts were just great!
Some gifts were simply better then great!!!
It was Aubrey’s First Christmas and she was not too sure of what to think
Joe has never looked better
Mark and Reiner were exhausted from all activity
And the bigger boys were thrilled with the biggest gift of the night….
As I sit here looking back at Christmas Eve 2009 just past……It is nice to know…Even though things have changed ~ Some things haven’t changed…Thank God
It is true….I have taken an impromptu leave from my blogging.
You and I have had this blog relationship for almost a year now and well……there is something you should know about me…
I am a procrastinator…Yes…disappointing I know…….. but true.
I even procrastinate on the things I like. But here is the thing……
Honestly; it’s the pictures of Thanks-Giving I have not wanted to post.
You see…..I have this strange way about me….maybe it is a Finnell thing….I really don’t think it comes from the Coleman side of my family but…….I find if I don’t think about certain things that have happened or are happening….. I forget.
Sometimes forgetting is good.
That is of course…….. until I remember.
I am finding this time……Margaret is doing the same thing. When we talk about “things”…..We will not use the dreaded “D” word. Margaret and I will always say “before Father” or “when Father” never saying that word…and now it is down to “Well, you know.”…..
And that is what I have been doing…..Simply; I have not wanted to think about these things or even say them out loud.
Linda’s father came with his wife, Karen and Joe were there, George and all his kids, James tore himself away from his camp-out in front of Best Buy with is friends.
Father Theo stopped by. There was the usual football game
George Carved the turkey. He did a beautiful Job!
This was all done much to our relief…….after the meal was over. The turkey was not cooked and that simple under cooked turkey made us all smile and laugh at ourselves.
((Karen convincing Mary Elizabeth she IS the angle on top of the tree.))
But here we are and I have good news about Stephen and his team mate Mary winning a placement in the debate tournament yesterday…..I am very excited. This was his first debate ever AND his first academic award ever.
I am very proud of him both as his mother and his teacher. There are times when I really question our little school…..and then something like this happens and I know we are doing a good thing.
I quess that is just the mother in me…..always questioning.
Isn’t that Silly
Today, I think in the middle of all the kayos and confusion in our school days with; potty training, stopping to answer the business phone, checking this or that for Mark, laundry, the house work, finding what’s for dinner, dealing with everyday things life throws our way and lets not even mention what has happened these past few months with…
…Well, you know…
They are learning something. This school thing we have going on is good. So Yesterday; Kathryn recited her poem the Ballad of Birmingham By Dudley Randall for the debate club, Matthew judged and
Stephen argued the case he wrote by himself “Environmental Reform and Changing the Policies towards Cole Slurry ” with his partner and THEY WON….
I am so proud of him.
I finally sit down and think……I am going to post this one……and see five comments I have missed and these very loving messages:
How are you doing, my dear friend???? I’ve been thinking of you A LOT!!!!! You’re in my prayers…Miss you!!!! Love always, Janine XOXO
Just wanted to let you know that I’m missing your posts. Hope you’re doing okay. Thinking of you.
And I think…….Wow!!! Wow!!! Wow!!!
Thank you Regina and Janine………You guys are the best. Thank you for caring. Thank you for wondering and Thank you for thinking of me…..Thank you for thinking of Us.
We are doing………Well….you know.
We have had another busy week of school and I think we are finally getting back into our school groove……just in time to stop for the Thanks Giving Season.
At first we thought it might be a good idea to go to Karen’s house for the holiday but as the time grew closer and the emotions grew stronger we realized we needed to stay home.
Most importantly my mother didn’t want to go……I didn’t want to go. I felt we have had enough change and Thanks Giving is always good at mom’s……There is the family time, the food that can’t be beat and don’t forget all the chocolate you can eat. ((a rhyme!))
There is always the football game in the warm November sun. Mark and Reiner team up with the smallest kids and cream the larger boys in the family. It is great fun to be in and watch.
There is love flowing through all the rooms.
There is happiness.
My father always cuts the turkey. The men or boys that are not in the game at the time stand around him and talk in hopes of a first taste…..My dad will arrange the slices in a fan and then garnishes the plate with oranges, green and red cranberries.